This topic contains 11 replies, has 9 voices, and was last updated by  elly 9 months, 1 week ago.

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  • #205

    mark1
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    I started a new job 3 months ago, it involves lone working and sleep in shifts. My anxiety has just sky rocketed and I’ve ended up calling manager whilst on shift and having panic attacks and it’s completely debilitating and embarrassing. I have realized that it’s the lone working and all the responsibility that comes down to me. I have asked my manager if there are any vacancies within other services that we offer where I will be working within a small team. If however she comes back saying they don’t, I honestly don’t know where that leaves me. I can’t afford to take time off work or find another job but I also know I can’t continue within this role. I absolutely love the job itself but I’m struggling with being on my own and all of the responsibility that comes down to me.

  • #206

    Katy
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    I work in a similar role and love it mostly due to the fact I am alone!

    But you say your fear is because you have all this responsibility, but you have a manager. So therefore you’re not alone – you have others near if you need them and they’re only a phone call away. It’s very character building to work alone and shows great work ethic and ability.

  • #207

    tom
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    Make an appointment to see your GP. It is possible to get help with anxiety.
    What is your employer’s ‘Lone Worker Policy’? Read it carefully and check the procedures that must be followed in case of any incident, make sure that those procedures are available to you, rehearse what you would do in the case of an incident. If necessary rehearse until you can do it almost in your sleep, that will help to build your confidence. Try to remember that your employer has confidence in your ability, or you wouldn’t have been given the job.
    However, rather than ringing your manager, if you are having a panic attack, is it possible to ring a family member/friend? Your manager’s role is to be there for you in case of a work related incident, rather than to help you to deal with your own issues.

  • #208

    sarah
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    I recently started feeling anxious about day to day things, not going as far as panic attacks but a sort of constant low level tense feeling. I’ve started listening to hypnosis recordings, downloaded on my kindle, aimed at tackling anxiety and confidence issues. I’m sure they are helping and I’m coping far better now in situations I found stressful. If nothing else they relax you so well if listened to at bedtime that you sleep really well!

  • #209

    kerry
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    Firstly you seem to have identified the problem, don’t underestimate how difficult that can be to do! You have asked for a change, also big tick, that leaves you with management of the current situation so it is at least bearable, a trip to the GP would be a good idea, also google iapt in your area as they are often self referral and will run short course cbt/mindfulness type stuff which will give you some more tools in the box. In the meantime I’d suggest the mindfulness book by mark Williams.

    Have you struggled before or is this a new thing, it can be a bit scary either way but also we can’t expect all situations to suit us :), I’m awful a lot of the time but love being left here on my own, it’s quiet and I can just get on.

  • #210

    cammy
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    Oh, that’s no fun, you poor sausage.
    What is it that you get anxious about when on your own? Do you have to make decisions and you’re worried you’ll get it wrong? Do you have a certain number of things to get done and you’re worried that you can’t/will miss something? Are you worried about something unexpected happening and not being able to deal with it?

    What shift pattern are you working? Is it possible your body clock is struggling and causing at least some of the issue?

  • #211

    elly
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    I would talk to your manager and tell her how you’re feeling? She might be able to help. Also, try 5htp from Holland and Barrett, it’s a form of tryophan (kind of a seratonin type thingy), which is natural, it’s excellent for anxiety etc, and does not have any side effects.
    Hope you get it sorted soon. Big hugs.

  • #212

    mark1
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    It’s something I’ve suffered from pretty much my whole life, I’m on several medications and have had various therapies etc. They knew about this when I was interviewed, I was very open and honest about it all. I went back to GP last night and she was lovely, she’s increased my medication and advised I take some time off to sort myself out. My manager gave me an ultimatum yesterday and said “we need t know by tomorrow if you are staying or handing your notice in”. I have told my manager that i am signing off for a week as i cant make a decision like thst when i feel so anxious. I dont know if my anxiety is making the job a challenge or if the job tself is challenging me and causing anxiety. If thst makes sense? t It didn’t go down well, been told I’m costing them money and it’s not fair. I really don’t know, I appreciate I havent given them a decision but I feel like if I do right now then it would he to leave as my anxiety is telling me to get away and escape it all but if I can sort it out in my head and process it then maybe actually the working alone etc won’t bother me.

  • #213

    kerry
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    @mark1 Well it seems they aren’t too bothered about helping you resolve the situation. Are you on probabtion period? Is it the sort of meds that will have an instant impact on increase or ssri/snri?

  • #214

    sam
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    @mark1 They should be referring you to occupational health before asking you about resignation really….unless you brought resignation up?
    Taking the time to work things out is good – if you can figure out what’s triggering it then you might be able to find ways to manage it. To be fair to your employers, if you can’t give them something to go on then they’re going to struggle to put anything in place that will help.

  • #215

    Phil
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    You’re allowed to be ill!

    If you disclosed it during the recruitment process (was there a health form to fill in?) and you’ve been open and honest about it, they should have automatically had a conversation with you about making any reasonable adjustments before you started in role. Have you had an Occ Health referral? It’s absolutely not ok to say to an employee who’s off sick that they’re costing the company money and being unfair!

  • #216

    elly
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    You’re allowed to be ill!

    If you disclosed it during the recruitment process (was there a health form to fill in?) and you’ve been open and honest about it, they should have automatically had a conversation with you about making any reasonable adjustments before you started in role.

    This!
    Although if, as I expect, you are on a probationary period, your employer will be able to say that your performance hasn’t been good enough at the end of the period, you should ask for a referral to occupational health and *take someone with you* when you go. If you are not a member of a union, join one now. Your employer should have discussed ‘reasonable adjustments’ with you before you started work and unless at that point you told them you didn’t need any, you need to discuss with them what you need, occupational health should help you with this. I am guessing that you are working in a care home, they are notorious for employing people and terminating their employment at the end of the probationary period, when their salary would increase, so don’t feel too bad, OP, they find anything they can against you.

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